Do you think you need to be liked by everyone?
Do you try to be nice to others to avoid being
rejected? Do you tend to put the needs of
others before your own needs? Do you find
yourself saying yes to requests when you really
want to say no? Do you suppress your anger
and avoid confrontation with others? If these
situations sound like you, you could be a
people-pleaser.
You might wonder, “What’s wrong with trying
to please others?” Well, there are actually
many dangers to people-pleasing. By always
saying yes to other’s requests you can
overextend yourself, resulting in stress. Also,
you could get manipulated by others because
they know that you cannot say no. When other’s needs are put before your own, your own
self-interests are ignored. When anger is suppressed, it is often turned inward leading to
anxiety, depression, eating disorders, and self-harm. Finally, by avoiding confrontation with
others, your relationships could lose their authenticity as true feelings are often not expressed.
i am admitting something i have denied a very long time ago.
yes people. i am indeed a people pleaser.
i can't say no without ever feeling guilty, i can't say no without trying to say yes first and i can't say no to people every time they come running along asking help even though they're my worst immortal enemies.
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aku tak sure if you're reading this but i do hope so. here goes.
dah lama aku nak cakap but i couldn't say it to your face. not because of fear, but because i still have a speck of respect left for you. kau ingat selama bertahun tahun ni no one boleh hidu kau kencing tepi tiang batu? c'mon lah. balik tiang boleh la kau nak kencing tapi in the end people will know apa kau dah buat sebenarnya.
apa lagi cerita kau jaja dengan dia? apa tak cukup bulan lepas lepas kau fitnah aku menyimpang? apa tak betah kau duduk diam diam tanpa sakitkan hati orang lain terutama aku?
tell me frankly.
apa dosa besar salah silap aku pada kau sampai kau hina aku macam tu sekali?
apa silapnya kata aku sampai kau dendam hingga hari ini?
kalau kau tak boleh jawab soalan aku itu, answer me this.
have you even realized how much damaged you have caused? unnecessary damage, yet again caused by you. each year you never fail to create new chaos, new damages to fill your own filthy need ; JEALOUSY.
kau tak boleh tengok orang kawan hidup senang hati kan?
tolong lah weh. aku dah tak larat. kau punya drama, your lies semua lengkap boleh buat 4 vol buku kalah cerita Stephanie Meyer.
i am asking nicely to you ;
please leave. please leave. please leave.
sampai bila kau nak tabur fitnah? sampai bila kau nak porak peranda kan segala? sampai kau dapat apa kau nakk?? gitu? apa benda kau nak sebenarnya kau sendiri pun tak tahu kan?
don't lie. your eyes are lying. they reflects your lonely soul.
kau perlukan kawan, semua ada. kau yang bagi semua hilang satu persatu.
nak kene debik dengan aku baru kau diam kan mulut manis kau tu. sudahlah. stop lying and be a man. suck it all up and confess.
selagi aku mampu tahan, aku tahan.
this time, you're way over the limit.
i'm sorry tapi dalam kamus kawan aku, nama kau tak boley key-in.
dia cakap 'an error occured'
hati bernanah bertahun dah. dah merebak jadi kanser jiwa. dan once aku cakap no, i'm sorry. you don't stand a chance apologizing. you're 4 years too late to apologize
truthfully,
syafrah ashadi.