the ugly truth

baru tengok. ok fine.

while watching i was laughing my ass off when i just realized something. other than the fact that lil kids shouldnt be watching that movie *Bazleen keeps on reminding me that she saw that Doctor's butt* because of those R rated things they said/do in it.

it was really the ugly truth. pasal relationships. you can't expect guys untuk TAK PANDANG your assets first time jumpa or whenever they have the chance. and no, you don't go labeling those people as retards or pervert but in a man's world, it is okay to stare and fantasizing. guys macam Mike kau expect dia tak akan jumpa real love, kau expect dia untuk menjadi such a jerk yang tak akan pernah dianugerahkan CINTA/LOVE yang for women benda tu sacred gila.

the ugly truth ; SEMUA perempuan expect ada prince charming datang rescue naik kuda then live happily ever after.

sayang, who are we to kid? kau tak boleh dan tak akan dapat lelaki with all your characteristics yang kau dok list down. good looking, tall, dark, handsome, great smile, great personality, a person who makes you laugh, bla bla bla. apa kau nak bercinta dengan angel kah?

dan lelaki. haih cik cik abang gagah perkasa. kau boleh cari wanita with brains tak instead of cari D-cup? kenapa mesti nak pentingkan assets if perempuan itu otak dia sekecil udang?

ok. back to what i was focusing on.
i was like Abby awhile back. percaya yang ada prince charming ikut citarasa aku. somewhere out there. ada. jadi aku tolak mentah mentah anyone yang ada. sebab i want him, that prince charming. i had a list written in my journal which states that i want a guy like this and a guy like that.

tapi i never did stated/listed what I was like. for e.g i'm quite a hot-tempered person. dan benda benda ini tak penting.

seriously.

kau boleh tulis list macam Hanis Zalikha dimana dia nak ciri ciri lekaki /suami dia begini dan begitu. memang tak salah, kita semua hope dapat partner yang baik2, kacak semua.
tapi at the end of the day, relationships, life doesnt work like that. it's not something you can play safe with. it's something worth gambling, eventho you know you're gambling your heart and most probably the first person you gave your heart away will break your heart.

are you sure apa kau nak dalam lelaki semua itu penting? dan are you SURE kalau you jumpa lelaki idaman you dia akan end up dengan you? are you SURE kalau lelaki idaman dalam genggaman he will be EXACTLY like you imagine?

taklah sayang. it doesnt work like that. TAK SEMUA BLESSED JUMPA SOUL MATE MASING2.

bila mana kau dah jumpa the one, kau akan tahu. you will tolerate his/her weakness as he/she will to yours. benda ini dah lamaaa dah. its like kau tahu or tak je. and kau nak accept benda itu or not.

and no, i'm not an expert. cuma dah biasa, dibesarkan didalam suasana begini. kau tak perlu tahu bagaimana, you dont get it if you dont want to accept it.

dengan kata mudah, if you think your boyfriend sucks sebab dia tak serupa lelaki idaman kau, tanya balik yourself. apa dia dah buat selama dia dengan kau? isnt it enough? kau tak perlu mansion hadiah dari dia semata untuk kau happy. kau ada dia. it's darn easy. happiness itu ada, kau perlu tutup pintu negatif dan serap semua energy positive yang ada.

dan lelaki. dont be too hard on girls. jangan label perempuan zaman sekarang mudah lah segala lah apa lah semua. renung balik diri sendiri. kau nak perempuan baik2, kau tu cukup baik untuk deserve perempuan baik2?

bai. dalam alquran pun cakap lelaki/perempuan baik2 hanya untuk orang baik2. jadi kalau kau perangai macam iblis nak expect dapat perempuan macam bini Rasulullah memang tak akan jadi UNLESS kau sendiri ubah kau menjadi baik.

tapi benda ini bukan kita tentukan. tu. atas sana.

yang penting. jangan label. jangan materialistic sangat. jangan discriminate. jangan kau nak saja semua benda tanpa usaha.

even if kau dengan dia sudah putus, doesnt mean kau perlu keji dia. kau perlu happy sebab it used to be something kau look forward to. kau perlu happy sebab kau pernah rasa love itu, something sacred yang bukan semua orang boleh rasa. takat couple semua orang boleh. tapi nak rasa cinta itu, something tak boleh nak describe. kau tengok dia gelak gembira kau boleh rasa dalam hati kau macam ada something glowing.

cuba. benda mudah pada asasnya. manusia suka melecehkan benda indah bagi jadi susah sebab malas nak cuba. :)

p.s : memang. jiwang. sebab rindu benn.


Benn ;

sorry i couldn't be here on your birthday this coming monday. i balik kampung. but i'm soooooo gonna miss you. :(

Happy 21st Birthday Sayang. I.love.you. :)